A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us.
Jane Austen from…guess which novel!
|Pride and Prejudice|
It’s something I struggle with – being proud of a piece of work, but thinking it is vain to think so and not an appealing way of being. In fact, on occasions if I have openly said ‘I’m proud of this,’ I have had comments from Peter such as ‘Blow your own trumpet, why don’t you?’ It’s the British in us…self-effacing to the point of inauthenticity.
However, I completed a challenging briefing paper recently – which, if you must know, was entitled “Relational and physical security: generating a culture of hope and recovery in secure settings.” I am proud of it. And for once, I didn’t need anyone else to say anything to know it was a good piece of work.
It was the icing on the cake when people were complimentary though!
But I didn’t NEED that, where in the past I wouldn’t believe anything was any good until someone else had said so.
Perhaps I’m growing up?